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HAPPY BIRTHDAY! …FEBRUARY BIRTHDAYS*
Tracy Verhoeven, Beatrice DaRe, Catherine Adde, Hilda Pittman, Anne-
Marie Stockdale, Susan Henderson, Allie Attay, Ursula El-Tawansy, ladys
Moser, Sylvia Lorhan, Ana Ptanski, Winifred Swanson , Janet Gillespie,
Marian DeMars, Vickie Vernon, Mary Beth Knox, Sharon Lefler.
* To add your name to this distinguished list, please call the paper
at 626.355.2737. YEAR of birth not required
PAPER QUILL HEART CRAFT – Monday, February 26th beginning at
1:0pm. All materials will be provided and space is limited, please call to
reserve your spot.
REAL ESTATE PLANNING – Come listen to a panel of expert professionals
who support seniors and their families with their housing and real estate needs.
Tuesday, February 13th from 1:30pm-2:30pm. Light snacks and beverages will
be served. Reserve your spot today!
SENIOR CINEMA – Wednesday, February 21st, La La Land.
HULA & POLYNESIAN DANCE – Thursday 10:00am-11:00am in the
Memorial Park pavilion and Friday 10:00am-11:00am in the Hart Park House.
OUT TO PASTOR
A Weekly Religion Column by Rev. James Snyder
ICE CREAM SOLVES A LOT OF MY PROBLEMS
Like everybody else, I face
problems almost every day.
Or maybe I should say, my
problem faces me.
Every Monday, when I get up, I say to myself,
“How many problems will I have this week?
How many will I solve?” Unfortunately,
myself never replies back.
Problems are part of life, but it’s tough for me
to get used to problems. Every time I almost
solve one problem, two or three new ones
pop up. There are times when I hesitate to get
up on a Monday morning.
Recently, I discovered something related to
my problems. No matter my problems or
where they come from, I have discovered that
a bowl of ice cream solves most of them.
This is a recent discovery for me. I only wish I
would’ve known it 50 years ago. Since I know
it now, I will use it for my benefit. The more
problems I have, the more ice cream I need.
Discovering that ice cream is my comfort
food has really made a lot of difference in my
life. And it has taken me quite a while to get
The Gracious Mistress of the Parsonage to
understand this about me.
She knows much about me, even more than I
know about myself. But this one thing about
ice cream is relatively new, and she hesitates
to acknowledge it.
Whenever a problem pops up, I usually get
frustrated and bent out of shape trying to
figure out how to deal with it. Sometimes I do
figure it out, but more often, I do not. Then
I discovered something that has changed my
attitude for all time.
That discovery is that ice cream is a way of
helping me deal with a problem that I might
have. Oh boy, this has been a learning curve
for me.
I discovered this not too long ago when I
faced a problem I just didn’t know how to
take. I was driving down the street when I
noticed a relatively new ice cream store on
my right side. Looking at it, I thought to
myself, “What will it hurt if I stop and have
some ice cream?”
I pulled into the parking lot, walked over,
entered the store, and ordered some ice
cream. I looked at the menu for a while to
order the right ice cream. I saw some mint
chocolate chip ice cream on the menu. I
haven’t had mint chocolate chip ice cream,
for I can’t remember how long ago. So I
ordered it, took it to the table, sat down, and
began working on it.
I was only three bites in when it finally
occurred to me that I wasn’t even thinking
about my problem at that time. All I was
thinking about was how delicious this ice
cream was. This mint chocolate chip ice
cream was so delicious I couldn’t think of
anything else.
When I finished my mint chocolate chip
ice cream dish, I couldn’t remember my
problem. Unfortunately, when I got in my car
and started driving away, the problem finally
came back to me. But when it did, it didn’t
seem as serious as it did before the ice cream.
Something had happened.
It’s not every day that I learn something new
about myself, but this was one of those days.
I don’t know how many kinds of ice cream
there are, but I have worked it out so that
every problem I face is associated with some
flavor of ice cream.
The harder the problem, the darker the ice
cream. If I have vanilla ice cream, that means
I have a very easy problem to solve. But if I
have a really difficult problem, I must have
chocolate fudge ice cream.
When I got home that evening, I updated
The Gracious Mistress of the Parsonage on
my discovery.
“Guess what I learned about myself today,” I
said with a big smile.
Looking at me, she said, “I give up; what did
you learn about yourself today that I don’t
already know?”
Clearing my throat, I said, “I have learned
that I need ice cream to deal with any
problem that comes my way.”
“Well,” she said sarcastically, “that’s one
good excuse to get your ice cream.” “Oh, no,”
I said enthusiastically, “I really mean that ice
cream helps me solve my problems.”
I tried to explain to her that every flavor of ice
cream helps me solve a particular problem.
I’m not sure she believed me, but I was going
to prove that that was true.
Later that evening, after supper, we watched
TV in the living room, and then she went
out into the kitchen. When she returned,
she had a bowl of chocolate fudge ice cream,
and looking at me, she said, “I’m not sure if
this is chocolatey enough to fix your problem
tonight.”
Munching on my ice cream I thought of a
Bible verse. Philippians 4:6-7, “Be careful
for nothing; but in every thing by prayer
and supplication with thanksgiving let
your requests be made known unto God.
And the peace of God, which passeth all
understanding, shall keep your hearts and
minds through Christ Jesus.”
Nobody can live without problems. That’s
just life. But, as a Christian, I have a special
resource called prayer. My prayer connects
me with God’s peace “which passeth all
understanding.”
There is no problem that in anyway
compromises God’s peace that He has for me.
Dr. James L. Snyder lives in Ocala, FL with the
Gracious Mistress of the Parsonage. Telephone
e-mail jamessnyder51@gmail.com, website www.
jamessnyderministries.com.
HOW TO DIVIDE YOUR PERSONAL
POSSESSIONS WITHOUT
DIVIDING THE FAMILY
Dear Savvy Senior:
Do you have any suggestions on divvying up my personal possessions to my kids after I’m gone
without causing hard feelings or conflict? I have a lot of jewelry, art, family heirlooms and antique
furniture, and four grown kids that don’t always see eye-to-eye on things.
Conflicted Parent
Dear Conflicted:
Divvying up personal possessions among adult children or other loved ones can often be a tricky
task. Deciding who should get what without showing favoritism, hurting someone’s feelings or
causing a feud can be difficult, even for close-knit families who enter the process with the best
of intentions. Here are a few tips to consider that can help you divide your stuff with minimal
conflict.
Sweating the Small Stuff
For starters, you need to be aware that it’s usually the small, simple items of little monetary value
that aren’t mentioned in your will that cause the most conflicts. This is because the value we
attach to the small personal possessions is usually sentimental or emotional, and because the
simple items are the things that most families fail to talk about.
Family battles can also escalate over whether things are being divided fairly by monetary value.
So, for items of higher value like your jewelry, antiques and art, consider getting an appraisal to
assure fair distribution. To locate an appraiser in your area, try ISA-appraisers.org, Appraisers.
org or AppraisersAssociation.org.
Dividing Fairly
The best solution for passing along your personal possessions is for you to go through your house
with your kids or other heirs either separately or all at once to find out which items they would
like to inherit and why. They may have some emotional attachment to something you’re not
aware of. If more than one child wants the same thing, you’ll have to make the ultimate decision.
Then you need to sit down and make a list of who gets what on paper, signed, dated and referenced
in your will. You can revise it anytime you want. You may also want to consider writing an
additional letter or create an audio or video recording that further explains your intentions.
You can also specify a strategy for divvying up the rest of your property. Here are some popular
methods that are fair and reasonable:
Take turns choosing: Use a round-robin process where your kids take turns choosing the items
they would like to have. If who goes first becomes an issue, they can always flip a coin or draw
straws. Also, to help simplify things, break down the dividing process room-by-room, versus
tackling the entire house. To keep track of who gets what, either make a list or use adhesive dots
with a color assigned to each person to tag the item.
Have a family auction: Give each person involved the same amount of play money or use virtual
points or poker chips to bid on the items they want.
Use online resources: For families who want help or live far apart, there are web-based resources
like FairSplit.com that can assist with the dividing process.
For more tips, see “Who Gets Grandma’s Yellow Pie Plate?” at YellowPiePlate.umn.edu. This is
a resource created by the University of Minnesota Extension Service that offers a free video and
detailed workbook for $12.50 that gives pointers to help families discuss property distribution
issues and lists important factors to keep in mind that can help you avoid or manage conflict.
It’s also very important that you discuss your plans in advance with your kids so they can know
ahead what to expect. Or you may even want to start distributing some of your items now, while
you are still alive.
Send your senior questions to: Savvy Senior, P.O. Box 5443, Norman, OK 73070, or visit
SavvySenior.org. Jim Miller is a contributor to the NBC Today show and author of “The Savvy
Senior” book.
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