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THE GOOD LIFE 10 Mountain Views-News Saturday, February 4, 2017 HOW TO HELP OLDER DRIVERS GIVE UP THE CAR KEYS SENIOR HAPPENINGS Dear Savvy Senior, What tips can you recommend that can help me deal with my mom’s bad driving? At age 83, her driving abilities have declined, but I know she’s bound and determined to keep driving as long as she’s alive. Nervous Nelly Dear Nelly, There’s no doubt that giving up driving can be a tough step for many elderly seniors, as well as a difficult conversation for concerned family members. While there’s no one way to handle this sometimes touchy topic, there are a number of tips and resources that can help you evaluate and adjust your mom’s driving, and ease her out from behind the wheel when she can no longer drive safely. Assess Her Driving To get a clear picture of your mom’s driving abilities, your first step – if you haven’t already done so – is to take a ride with her and watch for problem areas. For example: Does she drive at inappropriate speeds, tailgate or drift between lanes? Does she have difficulty seeing, backing up or changing lanes? Does she react slowly, get confused easily or make poor driving decisions? Also, has your mom had any fender benders or tickets lately, or have you noticed any dents or scrapes on her vehicle? These, too, are red flags. For more assessment tips see SeniorDriverChecklist.info. If you need help with this, consider hiring a driver rehabilitation specialist who’s trained to evaluate older drivers. This typically runs between $100 and $200. Visit AOTA.org/older-driver or ADED.net to locate a specialist in your area. Transitioning and Talking After your assessment, if you think it’s still safe for your mom to drive, see if she would be willing to take an older driver refresher course. These courses will show her how aging affects driving skills, and offers tips and adjustments to help ensure her safety. Taking a class may also earn your mom a discount on her auto insurance. To locate a class contact your local AAA (AAA.com) or AARP (AARP.org/drive, 888-227-7669). Most courses cost around $20 to $30 and can be taken online or in a classroom. If, however, your assessment shows that your mom really does need to stop driving, you need to have a talk with her, but don’t overdo it. If you begin with a dramatic outburst like “mom, you’re going to kill someone!” you’re likely to trigger resistance. Start by simply expressing your concern for her safety. For more tips on how to talk to your mom about this, the Hartford Financial Services Group and MIT AgeLab offers a variety of resources at TheHartford. com/lifetime – click on “Publications” on the menu bar, then on the “We Need To Talk” guidebook. Refuses To Quit If your mom refuses to quit, you have several options. One possible solution is to suggest a visit to her doctor who can give her a medical evaluation, and if warranted, “prescribe” that she stops driving. Older people will often listen to their doctor before they will listen to their own family. If she still refuses, contact your local Department of Motor Vehicles to see if they can help. Or, call in an attorney to discuss with your mom the potential financial and legal consequences of a crash or injury. If all else fails, you may just have to take away her keys. Alternative Transportation Once your mom stops driving she’s going to need other ways to get around, so help her create a list of names and phone numbers of family, friends and local transportation services that she can call on. To find out what transportation services are available in her area, contact the Rides in Sight (RidesInSight. org, 855-607-4337) and the Eldercare Locator (800-677- 1116), which will direct you to her area agency on aging for assistance. Send your senior questions to: Savvy Senior, P.O. Box 5443, Norman, OK 73070, or visit SavvySenior.org. Jim Miller is a contributor to the NBC Today show and author of “The Savvy Senior” book. HAPPY BIRTHDAY! …February Birthdays* Beatrice DaRe, Cathrine Adde, Hilda Pittman, Anne-Marie Stockdale, Susan Henderson, Peter Lippincott, Georgia Lippincott, Allie Attay, Ursula El-Tawansy, Gladys Moser, Sylvia Lorhan, Ana Ptanski, Winifred Swanson , Marian DeMars, Vickie Vernon, Mary Beth Knox, Sharon Lefler, Gordon Caldwell. * To add your name to this distinguished list, please call the paper at 626.355.2737. YEAR of birth not required ................................................................... ACTIVITIES: Unless listed differently, all activities are at the Hart Park House (Senior Center) 222 W. Sierra Madre Blvd., Sierra Madre Hawaiian & Polynesian Dance Class: Every Tuesday morning from 10a.m. to 11a.m. Join instructor Barbara Dempsey as she leads you in the art of Hula. Bingo: Every Tuesday beginning at 1:00p.m. Cards are only $0.25 each! Everyone is welcome to join. May be canceled if less than five people. Free Blood Pressure Testing: 2nd Tuesday of the month from 11a.m. to 12p.m. No appt. is necessary. Brain Games: Thursday, January 19th, 10:30a.m. - 11:30a.m., improve your memory and strengthen your brain. Activities facilitated by Senior Volunteers. Free Legal Consultation: Wednesday, January 25th from 10:30a.m. to Noon. Attorney Lem Makupson is available for legal consultation. He specializes in Family Law, Wills, Trusts, Estates, and Injury. Appointments are required by calling 626-355-7394. Sing-A-Long: Music brings joy to the soul! Come join us Thursday, January 12th, 10:30a.m. to 11:30a.m. No music skills needed! Senior Club: Every Saturday at the Hart Park House Senior Center. Brown Bag Lunch at 11:30a.m. Chair Yoga: Mondays and Wednesdays from 11:00 to 11:45a.m. with Paul Hagen. Third Monday of each month, a variety of balance exercises are practiced. All ability levels are encouraged and welcomed. A suggested donation of $5 at one of the classes is requested, but is not required. Case Management: Case Management services are provided by the YWCA and provide assistance in a variety of areas. Appointments are required and can be scheduled by calling the Hart Park House Office at 626-355-7394. Birthday Celebrations: Every 2nd Thursday of the month at the Hart Park House, share some free birthday cake provided by the Sierra Madre Civic Club. Game Day: Every Thursday starting at 12:00p.m. (Please note the time change.) A regular group of Seniors play poker. Other games are available for use. Free Strength Training Class: Every Friday from 12:45p.m. to 1:30p.m. with Lisa Brandley. The class utilizes light weights for low impact resistance training. All materials for the class are provided. HOSE DRINKERS How are your New Year’s resolutions going? I set my sights small, and resolved to drink less creamy and sugary coffee at work. Instead, I mix an aspartame-laden “Crystal Light” knock off with water in a two-liter bottle and sip it throughout the day. Sure, it’s artificial and possibly carcinogenic, but at least it’s gotta be better than sugar with coffee --I mean coffee with sugar. So, I was filling my water bottle from the sink in the break room the other day when the boss burst through the door. “What are you doing?” she asked. Aghast, I sheepishly looked up from the faucet. “Uh, getting water?” “No, no, no!” she said, shaking her head. “Come on,” she motioned toward her office, “Use the ‘Arrowhead’ in there.” I could feel water overflowing from my bottle into the sink, and nodded, “Okay, maybe next time.” I figured, why waste a perfectly good batch of flavored water? Luckily, some small crisis distracted my boss and I was able to retreat to my office with my substandard “faucet water” drink. For a while I wondered if I was the only tap water-drinking employee until last week, when the topic of tap vs. bottled water came up during lunch. “I was a hose drinker as a kid!” one of the senior workers joked with the boss. This prompted a number of us closet hose drinkers to “come out” and admit our tacky-”tap” habits. “Yeah,” one of my coworkers chimed in, “Nothing tastes better than cold water from the hose after playing outside all day!” A number of us reminisced about our own tap water childhood memories. I don’t know about you, but I never understood the purpose of bottled water. Talk about the antithesis of “green” living! Think about all the plastic used to store bottled water. Then consider the fuel needed to transport it from place to place. THEN consider the fact the most bottled water is drawn from municipal sources, not the babbling brooks of the Sierras, Andes, or any other pristine locale. The waste that goes into producing regular bottled water is bad enough, but then they’ve got to go and make even smaller bottles of water! What? You or your kid can’t commit to a 12 oz. bottle, so you go for the tiny 6 oz.? Yes, midget water bottles are cute, but really, can cute be justified at the cost of jeopardizing the environment? I understand that there are situations that demand bottled water. Anytime you’re traveling in the third world or a developing nation, by all means, stock up on Dasani or whatever brand you like. During a vacation to Michigan, we stayed at a relative’s house that was situated in the middle of a corn field. The water had an orange tint, and smelled like burning sulfur. I don’t recall whether or not I actually showered in it, but that was one time I was very grateful for a bottle of Arrowhead! So, if you’re traveling, take advantage of our wonderful advances in bottled water. But if you’re torn between filling up at the kitchen sink or paying $1 for a bottle of Dasani, I hope you choose the sink. It’s a heck of a lot cheaper. And remember --what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger! Mountain Views News 80 W Sierra Madre Blvd. No. 327 Sierra Madre, Ca. 91024 Office: 626.355.2737 Fax: 626.609.3285 Email: editor@mtnviewsnews.com Website: www.mtnviewsnews.com | ||||||||||||||||||||