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PUT THE LIGHTS ON
IT'S NOT MY FAULT
Then whose fault is it? This morning I met one of
my two Republican friends on the golf course. Maybe I
have more but right now I can’t think of any. The fact is
that I am losing friends so fast that I can’t keep track. It’s
all connected in a way to the fact that I am really feeling
angry, kind of crazy and isolated. I want to blame the Pandemic
or the Russian invasion of the Ukraine but really it’s
all connected to what we now call “global warming”. We
used to call it the “climate crisis”, but I guess that name was
too scary and too political. Whatever you want to call it
that was what my Republican friend was screaming about
as we met at the first tee?
“Why aren’t the Democrats doing anything about it? You guys are in power
now with a majority in both Houses of Congress and, instead, all the attention is going
to debates about the proper response to Putin and questions about which is the
best vaccine or when is the best time to schedule a cruise vacation, or who is a greater
villain Chris Rock or Will Smith”? He mentioned an editorial in the LA TIMES that
declared that unless something drastic is done within the next two years irreversible
damage will have occurred and our entire species will be facing extinction. He said
this editorial was on the fifth page or somewhere. “Why aren’t people screaming in
the streets?”
My immediate response was to get angry at him for already ruining our golf
game. I hadn’t read the LA Times article because I’ve sort of stopped regularly reading
the paper or watching much news lately. I really miss Charlie Rose, and Rachel
Maddow has disappeared, and John Oliver talks too fast, and Democracy Now is
too depressing, although I still watch it most mornings and am horrified and made
miserable by the frightening films of the devastation in the Ukraine and the videos of
the bodies in the street. I remember Ronald Reagan, who of course I never liked, announcing
that soon the entire Soviet Union would fall into the “ash heap of history”.
Who was he kidding? And yet by 1991 the whole Soviet Union had collapsed and the
whole world would be safer and Reagan and Gorbachev became friends. I foolishly
believed the demise of the Soviet Union was a sign of increased rationality within the
world and how fortunate we all were to have escaped potential nuclear devastation 60
years ago during the Cuban missile crisis. Up until a very short time ago I was certain
that the nuclear arsenal possessed by Russia and the United States acted as perpetual
deterrents and absent an accident at a nuclear power plant like Chernobyl or Fukushima
the world was free from the worries of a nuclear war.
Ok, I was wrong! Thanks partly because of President Putin and the Pandemic
the possibility or perhaps probability of environmentally anthropogenic (that means
humans are too blame) comes closer and closer. Although there is some lip service
nothing much is happening. Oh something is happening all right! Today, its 100
degrees in Sierra Madre and it’s just one week into Spring. Still, there is more talk
about rising gas prices than there is about the climate crisis. Hey, maybe that’s good?
Maybe the price of gas will be so high that people can no longer afford to drive their
cars and polluting fossil fuels will be less of a problem. Maybe soon people will work
from home or form car pools or walk and use bicycles. Right now even that seems
unlikely as many of us are afraid to walk the streets or let our kids walk to school because
of fears of gun violence. Really, if we can’t even get rid of guns how can there be
any realistic expectation that we can adjust to the necessary sacrifices that might save
us.
My epigeneticist friend living in Australia tells me that almost all species become
extinct and I should just adjust to that understanding and have a good time while
I’m still around. I don’t want to have a good time. Maybe our whole civilization will
eventually be rediscovered in the future ashcans of history? Would it have been better
if Zelensky had agreed to Russian demands, before the violence began and then tried
to influence Putin to make democratic reforms? I suggested that more than a month
ago but that really doesn’t make me feel any better.
Is everyone else out there managing to have a good time?
MOURNING THE LOSS OF A
DICK POLMAN
LOVED ONE IS NOT A DISEASE
My wife of 45 years died
six months ago this week.
I have been processing
her loss ever since. But the
American Psychiatric Association
now says that I
have only six more months
to heal myself, and that if I
blow the deadline, I should
be clinically defined as
mentally diseased.
It’s not in my nature to use this column for personal
business. But the APA’s decision to add “prolonged
grief ” (defined as one year or more) to its Diagnostic
and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders
strikes me as a ludicrous attempt to reboot natural
bereavement as a disease. And once you’re diagnosed
with this newly created disorder, I bet there
will be meds to make it all better.
I can’t speak for other grieving souls, and, granted,
I’m still a newbie. But
I’ll hazard a guess that
most people in similar
straits fail to reorient
their emotional framework
within one year’s
time. Heck, some people
conclude their time on
earth without ever finding
a modicum of peace.
We, the walking wounded,
are grappling with
life’s worst disorders,
navigating at our disparate
speeds. That doesn’t
mean we’re “sick.”
Six months after my
own heart was gutted, I
seem to be an everyday
functioning person. But
there’s no way that I can
clear the APA’s one-year
hurdle. When Oct. 3,
2022 comes and goes, I’m quite sure I will meet the
association’s new definition of diseased. I’ll still feel
”
’s) decision. I worry for
of us. I worry that this framing will render us even
lonelier in our pain, even more convinced that our
nonlinear, unpredictable paths through loss are
‘wrong’…Many of the symptoms the psychiatric association
uses to define ‘prolonged grief ’ are shockingly
common. ‘Intense emotional pain (e.g., anger,
bitterness, sorrow)’? Let’s call that a Tuesday. ‘Identity
disruption’? When you’ve walked through a portal
through which you cannot return, of course your
sense of self changes dramatically.”
And Martha Weinman Lear, who authored a book
about loss, writes that the beneficiaries of the APA’s
new diagnosis will be “pill makers.” She says: “What
strikes me as abnormal is not grief beyond the APA’s
one-year prescription, but the degree of chutzpah
required, professional training notwithstanding,
to presume to set timelines for the normal grief of
others, which in fact is as various as the grievers
themselves.”
The APA’s one-year deadline smacks of classic
American impatience: “Get over it” and “Move on
with your life.” Like the cowboy in Lonesome Dove
who said, “Best thing to do with death is to ride off
from it.” Um, it’s not that simple. At my six-month
mark, I do feel myself “getting over it” – the worst
of it anyway, but with many caveats. I do feel myself
“moving on” – as best I can, but with many caveats:
Is it possible to feel happy again? Is it wrong?
Bottom line: I like the Bob Dylan line, “he not busy
being born is busy dying.” What you do is, you learn
to live with the emotional pain. Then you cushion it
with all the joy you can muster for the good things
in your life – be they family, friends (old and new),
work, travel, biking, hiking, whatever – because you
realize that gratitude can be a powerful palliative.
You accept melancholia and whenever possible you
lighten it with mirth. You honor your loss and accept
the fact that your old life, and all the ways your
loved one enhanced it, is irrevocably over – and that
it’s now incumbent to craft a new one.
Sorry, headshrinkers. I won’t need meds for that.
Dick Polman, a veteran national political columnist
based in Philadelphia
RICH JOHNSON NOW THAT’S RICH
USEFUL OR USELESS STUFF...
YOU DECIDE
As any of you who read my column
know, I spare no hesitation in delivering
truly useful information. Well, I inherited
a boatload of brilliant bits of “stuff ”
from friends Nancy and Ken.
Information that will cause you (hopefully)
to amaze and delight your friends,
relatives, neighbors and complete strangers.
Here goes:
“Stewardess” is the longest word you can type with only the left
hand. What about the right hand Rich? Hah! Got you covered.
That word is “lollipop.”
“Dreamt” is the only English word that ends in the letters “mt”.
(Which is what my head is often full of.)
Typewriter is the longest word that can be made using the letters
on only one row of the keyboard. (Isn’t this stuff great?)
Ever read the sentence: “The quick brown fox jumps over the lazy
dog?” Wonder why you see it? Because it uses every letter of the
alphabet.
“Racecar”, “kayak”, and “level”, are palindromes. Backwards and
forwards they say the same thing.
There are only four words in English that end in the letters “dous.”
Tremendous, horrendous, stupendous, and hazardous.
There are two words in the English language that have all 5 vowels
in order: “Abstemious” and “Facetious.” But what about sometimes
“y?”
A goldfish has a memory span of three seconds. (How did they
figure that out?)
How long is a jiffy? 1/100th of a second.
A snail can sleep for three years. (I may be a member of the snail
family.)
Almonds are a member of the peach family. Huh?
In the last 4,000 years no new animals have been domesticated.
If the population of China walked past you, 8 abreast, the line
would never end because of the rate of reproduction. (How do we
prove this?)
Leonardo Da Vinci invented the scissors.
The Queen Elizabeth 2 cruise ship moves only six inches for each
gallon of diesel fuel.
There are more chickens than people in the world.
Women blink nearly twice as much as men. That number goes
way up when men are staring at pretty girls.
Winston Churchill was born in a ladies’ room during a dance.
And…all the ants in Africa weigh more than all the elephants.
(Another one that may be hard to prove.)
My rock and roll band, JJ Jukebox is playing 6:30 to 9:30 at Nano Café in Sierra
Madre, Saturday night, April 23. 1950’s, 60’s and 70’s “FUN” rock and roll. Dance
to it, dine to it, drink to it. Make reservations Wednesday through Saturday after
4:00pm by calling the restaurant at (626) 325-3334. Leave your telephonenumber for confirmation and please call if you have to cancel (we’ll
understand)
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