Mountain Views News, Sierra Madre Edition [Pasadena] Saturday, September 1, 2018

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Mountain Views-News Saturday, September 1, 2018 

Jeff’s Book Pics By Jeff Brown



Last week, I shared the first part of this series, 
discussing some of the key steps for conscious 
co-parenting. In part two, we continue with the 
final steps. 

 Conscious co-parenting after divorce is a child-
centered process, where both you and your ex-
spouse agree to work as cooperative partners for 
the sake of your kids. This ultimately helps both 
you and your children adapt in a healthier way. 
Such collaboration can be challenging, but last 
week I offered three ways you can successfully 
navigate the process. Here are three additional 
ways to make conscious co-parenting work for 

 Respect your co-parent’s time with the children
Conscious co-parenting is about demonstrating 
to your children that you still want the other 
parent in their lives.

 It’s normal to miss your children when they’re 
away, but it will be easier and healthier for 
everyone if you don’t do anything that might 
stop your kids from having an enjoyable time 
when they’re with the co-parent. This means not 
scheduling children’s activities during the co-
parent’s time, unless you’ve asked them first. It 
also means respecting their time together by not 
constantly calling or texting.


Get outside support

When it comes to divorce, the experience is 
often painful and unsettling. The underlying 
emotions can be overwhelming if they 
aren’t processed properly, which can have 
negative effects on your parenting skills. 
Given this, it’s crucial you have support systems 
in place to move through this phase of life. There’s 
no single solution, so try a few different supportive 
outlets to find the one(s) that most suit you. 
Whether it’s therapy, support groups, trusted 
confidants, and/or meditative solitude, you 
should take this opportunity to practice 
self-care. For better or worse, our personal 
identities are often largely centered around 
our marriages, so it’s perfectly natural to go 
through a grieving process when they end. Just 
don’t let the grief become what defines you.

Use conscious co-parenting to achieve personal 

 While it may sound paradoxical, divorce 
can offer a perfect opportunity for personal 
growth. The steps discussed here can help you 
adjust to your new life in divorce’s immediate 
aftermath, but they can also allow you to better 
express yourself throughout your life overall. 
Consciously choosing a cooperative co-
parenting relationship is just the beginning. You 
can bring the same mindful focus to every other 
area of your life. Treating your co-parent in a 
compassionate, respectful, and patient manner 
can provide the foundation for how you deal 
with all of life’s relationships and circumstances. 
By doing this, you can serve as a role model 
for your children, demonstrating how they can 
deal with adversity in their own lives. In fact, 
conscious co-parenting can provide them with 
an array of vital skills that will strengthen their 
ability to endure the trials and tribulations 
they’re likely face in the future. 

 From custody agreements to alimony 
payments, there are numerous legal issues that 
can arise when co-parenting, so be sure you have 
the legal support you need. And given the fact 
that your family structure has changed, you’ll 
want to update your estate plan as well. Please 
contact us today if we can be of any assistance.

Dedicated to empowering your family, building 
your wealth and defining your legacy,

A local attorney and father, Marc Garlett is on a 
mission to help parents protect what they love most. 
His office is located at 55 Auburn Avenue, Sierra 
Madre, CA 91024. Schedule an appointment to 
sit down and talk about ensuring a legacy of love 
and financial security for your family by calling 
626.355.4000 or visit for 
more information.

Paper: Paging Through History by 
Mark Kurlansky

From the New York Times best-selling 
author of Cod and Salt, a definitive 
history of paper and the astonishing ways 
it has shaped today’s world.Paper is one 
of the simplest and most essential pieces 
of human technology. For the past two 
millennia, the ability to produce it in ever 
more efficient ways has supported the 
proliferation of literacy, media, religion, 
education, commerce, and art; it has 
formed the foundation of civilizations, 
promoting revolutions and restoring 
stability. By tracing paper’s evolution from 
antiquity to the present, with an emphasis 
on the contributions made in Asia and the 
Middle East, Kurlansky challenges common 
assumptions about technology’s influence, 
affirming that paper is here to stay. Paper 
will be the commodity history that guides 
us forward in the twenty-first century and 
illuminates our times. 24 illustrations

Taming the Sun: Innovations to 
Harness Solar Energy and Power 
the Planet by Varun Sivaram

How solar could spark a clean-energy 
transition through transformative 
innovation-creative financing, revo-
lutionary technologies, and flexible 
energy systems.Solar energy, once a niche 
application for a limited market, has 
become the cheapest and fastest-growing 
power source on earth. What’s more, its 
potential is nearly limitless-every hour the 
sun beams down more energy than the 
world uses in a year. But in Taming the Sun, 
energy expert Varun Sivaram warns that 
the world is not yet equipped to harness 
erratic sunshine to meet most of its energy needs. 
And if solar’s current surge peters out, prospects for 
replacing fossil fuels and averting catastrophic climate 
change will dim.Innovation can brighten those 
prospects, Sivaram explains, drawing on firsthand 
experience and original research spanning science, 
business, and government. Financial innovation is 
already enticing deep-pocketed investors to fund 
solar projects around the world, from the sunniest 
deserts to the poorest villages. Technological 
innovation could replace today’s solar panels with 
coatings as cheap as paint and employ artificial 
photosynthesis to store intermittent sunshine as 
convenient fuels. And systemic innovation could add 
flexibility to the world’s power grids and other energy 
systems so they can dependably channel the sun’s 
unreliable energy.Unleashing all this innovation will 
require visionary public policy: funding researchers 
developing next-generation solar 
technologies, refashioning energy systems 
and economic markets, and putting 
together a diverse clean energy portfolio. 
Although solar can’t power the planet by 
itself, it can be the centerpiece of a global 
clean energy revolution.

Natural Rest for Addiction: A 
Radical Approach to Recovery 
Through Mindfulness and 
Awareness by Scott Kiloby 

Freedom from addiction is available in 
the one place that’s the most difficult for 
an addict to be—the present moment. In 
Natural Rest for Addiction, non-duality 
teacher and addiction specialist Scott 
Kiloby offers his Natural Rest program 
for finding recovery from substance 
abuse—and addictions of all kinds—
through the mindful practice of Resting 
Presence.If you struggle with alcoholism, 
drug dependency, or some other form 
of addiction, you know all too well the 
urges and cravings that drive your habit. 
Addiction tells you that something is 
wrong, that you need something outside 
of yourself to make you well, something 
to fill the sense of deficiency you carry 
inside. These feelings are often tied to deep 
emotional trauma, anxiety, depression, or 
pain held in the body that has never fully 
been acknowledged. But what if you could 
learn to relax into awareness and accept 
the difficult thoughts, emotions, and 
sensations that make you feel like you need 
to do something—anything—to change 
your experience?This book will guide 
you, step by step, into the natural, open, 
peaceful awareness that is available to you 
at all times. Using the mindfulness-based Natural 
Rest program for recovery, you’ll learn how to tap 
into this present-moment awareness throughout the 
day, relieving yourself of worries about the future or 
past by allowing your thoughts and feelings to come 
and go as they are, without grasping at or trying 
to control them. You’ll also learn about the Living 
Inquiries, a process of self-inquiry developed by Scott 
Kiloby to target the beliefs, trauma, compulsions, 
and triggers that keep you trapped in the cycle of 
suffering and seeking.At the heart of addiction is a 
constant, desperate desire to alter what you’re feeling, 
to escape from the here and now, to find relief. With 
Natural Rest for Addiction, you’ll gain a deeper 
understanding of the complex issues that underlie 
addictive behavior and learn how to find peace, 
freedom, and well-being in the present, one moment 
at a time.

All Things By Jeff Brown


by William Falk, Editor-in-Chief The Week 

Decades after I graduated from a Catholic all boys high school in Brooklyn, I received a letter notifying that Brother 
Kyrin Powers, the principal during my years there, had been accused of molesting students. Online, I found several 
posts by students expanding on Powers predations. “The things he did to me and to other student were horrendous,” 
one wrote. “I’m sure he is burning in hell.” (Powers had escaped earthly justice, in the unlikely event there was to be 
any, by dying.) During my high school years, I had no inkling of any abuses , but even to my adolescent eye, many of 
the celibate Xaverian brothers who ran the place seemed vaguely unhappy or openly angry about their constricted 
lives. A few had obvious drinking problems. Several quit the order. Before class one day, one brother flew into a spittle 
flecked rage when he saw a group of grinning boys looking out the window at a pretty girl .”What are you, animals?” 
He shouted, and stormed from the room period. As Catholics struggle to save their church from the clergy, the 
issue of celibacy can no longer be ignored. The celibacy requirement, imposed in 1139 A.D., has drawn men into the 
priesthood who are seeking to flee their sexual attractions; it twist the normal human need for touch and intimacy 
into something dark, furtive, and predatory. “When no form of sex is allowed,” said Andrew Sullivan this week in NY, “All forms of sex can seem immoral.” That moral confusion among priests has created tens of thousands 
of victims around the world, who faith brought them lifelong emotional wounds. Enough, surely, is enough. If the 
church is to reclaim it’s lost moral authority, it will have to tear down it’s secretive, all male hierarchy. If the church is 
to saved, it will let priest marry, and it will welcome women 



Real Life Tips from LIfe's Instruction Manual


The physical practice 
of yoga is quite 

 The body is stretched, 
strengthened and re-
shaped. We stand tall and 
breathe deep. 
of the best features is its 
well-rounded approach 
in creating new ways of 

 Many students come to yoga to stretch and yoga 
delivers. The best stretches in yoga happen in the 
standing poses. Triangle pose, for example, is one of 
the best stretching poses. The side body, or laterals, 
are opened and the inner thighs, hamstrings, and 
muscles of the outer hips get an excellent stretch. 
Simultaneously, muscles not being lengthened, stay 
engaged and strong. Other transformative poses 
are the warrior poses: Warrior I, II, and III. They 
lengthen the legs, upper body, and the back. All of 
the them are incredibly empowering as well, hence 
the name, warrior. 

 As the body is renewed through practice, posture 
changes, motivation shifts and we stand tall, 
physically and mentally. If you know you need yoga 
- and need to stretch your body and mind-- why 
not begin a practice? Yoga is for the person who’s 
not active at all and also for the advanced athlete 
or anyone in between. Begin by standing like a tall 
mountain, lengthening the spine and breathing 

 Contact me today to learn more keely@ 


Keely Totten, Yoga & Meditation Teacher, Always 
Standing Tall and Stretching Body & Mind

Keely Totten .

E-RYT 500, Yoga & Meditation Teacher

Reiki Master Practitioner 

(626)841-2050 cell 

www.keelytotten.comHatha Yoga • Ayurveda • 
Tantra • Reiki Healing

Lori A. Harris


We have all heard the advice: be grateful. There 
are slogans and platitudes everywhere mugs, 
t-shirts, or posters. 

 “Grateful people are happy people.” 

 The key to employing the power of gratitude is 
to train ourselves to be thankful in every situation, 
rather than waiting for a situation or condition to 
be pleasing. We can live in a grateful state. We 
can learn to create joy. Did you ask how? Learn 
to generate gratitude, don’t wait for something to 
happen for you to be grateful.

 A gentle, easy way to start is to reserve a few 
minutes each evening to reflect. What happened 
today? What did you learn from that incident? Did 
you like your response? Appreciate the learning 
opportunity. Bathe in your growth and imagine 
handling things even better. Look around your 
home, what do you really love about your home? 
Consider the people in your life how do they bless 

 Each evening record your gratitude. Write 
five different entries before bed. Don’t just make 
a simple list, sit and allow yourself to feel the 
deep love for that moment, then write it down. 
Review your list as you go to 
sleep. When you rise in the 
morning, review your list 
and add another item. 

 Ending and beginning 
your day with thanksgiving 
will change your life. You 
will soon be one of those 
people gleefully enjoying life. 
Don’t wait for something to 
be grateful for, generate the 
feeling of gratitude and watch what happens.

 Lori A. Harris is lawyer and coach. She can 
help live a life of more freedom and joy learn more 


Lori A. Harris

Creator of the Gratitude Train App, available in the 
App Store and Google Play

Gratitude, get on board!!!

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