Mountain Views-News Saturday, December 3, 2022
HOME ALONE
I have a darling dog named Molly, who at her ripe
ole age of 14 years is content staying home when
her beloved humans are away, but it hasn’t always
been that way. When Molly first came to live with
us, she’d literally loose it every time we attempted
to go somewhere without her, even for a short period
of time. I’d never before had a pet that was
afraid to be left home alone, so I assumed I was
among a limited few who had to deal with such
a scenario. I soon learned that the problem is far
more common than I’d thought.
Typical signs of the canine condition known as ‘pet
separation anxiety’ include constant under-thefence
dirt-digging, scratching at doors windows
and walls, incessant whining or howling, destructive
chewing, urinating or defecating indoors during
the owner’s absence, and effusive frantic greetings
upon the owner’s return. My Molly displayed
every one of these behavioral traits from the day I
adopted her, and it was quite disheartening. The
poor girl was terrified of being left home alone.
The question begged, “What causes an otherwise
easy-going canine to become over-the-top anxious
and frantically fearful when left alone?”
There are numerous theories as to why domestic
pets fret in the absence of their humans. Among
the most agreed-upon reasons is that the animal
experienced some sort of trauma in the past, leaving
an imprinted memory resulting in a lack of
trust in the humans’ promise to return, or the dog
was indeed abandoned and left to fend for itself,
perhaps coming close to the point of starvation
before finally being rescued and cared for by a forever
friend.
I found one story in an on-line post about an adult
dog that lived in a comfortable home with a loving
owner for many years. The dog had access to the
house and yard all its life and there had been no
history of trauma, but when the owner suddenly
passed away in the house, the dog was trapped
inside. A week went by before a neighbor became
concerned that there had been no activity next
door, and decided to investigate.
Ultimately the family was contacted. They came
and rescued the dog and, of course dealt with all
that went along with loosing their son. One can
only imagine what that poor dog went through
while staying by his master’s deceased body in the
meantime. From that day on, the dog was in full
fear anytime the family attempted to leave him
alone. No wonder.
What can be done to help heal the rooted reasons
for pet separation anxiety? I learned quite a
lot in my quest to do what I could to help Molly
get past her fear. Most importantly, the animal’s
emotional needs must be identified, validated and
met. Paying lots of attention to a fretful pet is certainly
in order from the start. In fact, positive reenforcement
techniques for any pet should include
tons of TLC and plenty of petting. Special treats
for good behavior can be helpful, in moderation.
Uplifting verbiage such as “I love you”, and “I am
proud of you” should be constant in a regimen for
healing the heart of a pet suffering from fear of
abandonment.
Animal psychology research has proven that certain
terms of endearment can have a positive im-
CHRISTOPHER Nyerges
[Nyerges is the author of 22
books and the co-founder
of School of Self-Reliance.
Among other things, he
teaches his students how to
do more with less, and how
frugality is a fulfilling life
style. He has authored "Ex
treme Simplicity," "Self-Sufficient
Home," "Urban Survival Guide," and other
books. More information at www.SchoolofSelfReliance.
com]
Yesterday in Highland Park there was a
sweep of a homeless area, where they all had
to move their tents and stuff, and the sanitation
department’s large crew filled trucks
with junk and cleaned the sidewalk. Before
their work, you could smell the area from 200
feet away. At least 15 police officers stood by
because some of the homeless camped there
got angry. At least a few shouted violent accusations
towards the officers. When it was
nearly over, I walked right through the thick
of it to see the stuff that homeless people collect.
My eyes saw some useful daily life objects,
but mostly junk and trinkets. My mind
was spinning.
Then, I could not help but contemplate the
vast amounts of worthless material stuff that
so many people accumulate. The difference
is that housed people can hide their stuff in
garages, back rooms, and rental units.
We all accumulate these things, thinking
they are valuable, and we keep these objects,
believing that they will impart something
special, or that they will appreciate in dollar
value, or even in some spiritual or esoteric
way. But it is all material stuff.
Here are a few reasons why I have become
very minimalist in my approach to the collection
of physical stuff.
First, when I began getting interested in survival
skills, I realized the great value of storing
enough food at your home that will get
you through an emergency. Like maybe a
few weeks, even a few months’ worth of food.
That’s not especially what I call hoarding.
One of my initial purchases of wheat was so
large that I had an entire wall in a back room
full of buckets of wheat. A year later I realized
I rarely eat wheat, and slowly gave away
and sold most of them.
Then I considered being prepared for blackouts
and other emergencies, and realized the
Happy Tails
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pact on domestic animal behavior. Even if you are
pessimistic about talking to your dog, why not do
it anyway? It might lift your own spirits to speak
words of encouragement out loud even if no one
else understands what you are saying. ‘Those in
the know’ also strongly encourage calm greetings
upon return home. The tendency is to be excited
and use high tones when returning home after
time away, but experts say that can exacerbate the
problem.
In addition to these common-sense remedies for
comforting pets dealing with “left-alone syndrome”,
there are products on the market that can
help lower the level of anxiety. I purchased a natural
stress-relief pet product for Molly called Rescue
Remedy. Using that, coupled with a consistent
regimen of leaving her at home for short periods of
time, and gradually increasing the lengths of time
we left her, proved to be an affective process for
progress.
I also bought Molly a Thunder Shirt, a product
marketed more specifically for calming dogs during
thunder storms, fireworks, heavy winds or
other loud outdoor noises that can’t be controlled.
But the Thunder Shirt has also been an affective
calming mechanism, in general. It definitely
helped with Molly‘s ‘home alone’ stress.
Another purchasable product designed to minimize
pet separation anxiety is a calming collar.
There are a few different brands of calming collars
out there. I never pursued this means of resolving
the problem with Molly because we were able
to make good progress with the Rescue Remedy
along with the Thunder Shirt and a regular regimen
of coming and going over time. But I’ve heard
good things about the collars so it might be worth
a try.
Another helpful habit that can play a part in pulling
a pet through separation anxiety, is establishing
a close relationship with a reliable, honest, humane
local pet sitter such as myself. My clients call
on me to visit their pets at the most optimum time,
to break up an otherwise long and monotonous
day. I arrive at the requested hour, take the pup
out for a walk and/or playtime in the yard, then
I spend the remaining time loving and cuddling
before I leave. If meals are called for, I include that
in my visit as well. If the owners have to be away
more than a day, I stay with the pet(s) overnight.
It makes all the difference in the world to have a
familiar friend to rely on!
I wish the best to any pet owner out there who happens
to be dealing with a pup suffering from the
fear of being left alone. It’s not easy, but with lots of
love and patience, I know from experience, it gets
better. Our pets are a lot like us humans. We want
to feel needed, loved unconditionally, and perhaps
most importantly, safe at home. Well guess what?
So do our furry, four-legged friends, and as we all
know, they are worth it. Love and let live.
ON STUFF
great value of having certain extra clothing,
blankets, manual tools, knives, those sorts of
things. Yes, you could say I was starting to
collect. And from there, it just goes on an on.
Should you store all the wood you find so
that you can have a fire in the fireplace every
night for the next year? Should you collect all
tools and lumber you find so you can build a
shed or chicken coop in your back yard without
going to the lumber yard? And should
you collect all that lumber even if you’re not
actually making such a shed or chicken coop?
That’s how you get into the collection of stuff.
It's all really good useful stuff that you might
use in an emergency. Before you know it,
you’re at yard sales and thrift stores, buying
things at ridiculously low prices that you
know you might use one day. Or, you tell
yourself, you could sell it to make extra cash.
But you don’t sell it, because the retail price
for your object – despite its inherent usefulness
– is little more than you originally paid
for it.
I’ve gotten to this point. I had plenty of stuff
to survive the next apocalypse, but I wasn’t
really using most of it. And I had to have
shed after shed after paid storage unit to store
all these really good things. Before you know
it, your living space is crammed full of stuff
that you never use, but which is –you’ve convinced
yourself – very very valuable.
It’s a big trap. In the past 20+ years, I moved
a few times, and carefully looked at all the
very good material things that I collected. I
realized that much of it I never used. Never.
So I decided to “bite the bullet” and clean
house. I was not willing to move truckloads
of stuff to my new place. My criteria was that
if I had not actually used the object – despite
my having determined that it was “very valuable”
– in the last 10 years, then I got rid of it.
I gave dozens of boxes of goods to a Boy Scout
leader to give outdoor gear to low-income
scouts. I gave a truckload of wood and bone
and rock and other natural materials to native
American friends to use in art projects.
I made many boxload donations to Salvation
Army and Goodwill. And I filled my blue
recycling bin about a dozen times, and filled
the black trash can many times as well. Yes, I
sold some things, but selling takes time, and
you rarely get back what you paid, especially
not when you have a time crunch.
And I never regretted shedding my life of
the material baggage. I found that the world
still had lots of hardware stores and grocery
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stores and art supply stores, and
that if I was actually doing and using a product,
I could just go get it. And if it was truly
unavailable, I realized it would not be the end
of the world. I could do without. I learned
to be rich in the degree to which I could do
without stuff.
That’s not to say that I have no supplies or
boxes of stuff. I do. But I regularly check
what I have and give away what I do not need.
I do not wait for Christmas or birthdays – I
just give away when I realize I have been serving
the object and not the other way around.
I had a dream that helped me to realize the
wisdom of this choice. At a time when my
wife and I decided to live separately, I moved
out. But because I had so much stuff in the
place we’d been living for nearly 20 years,
it took a while for me to clean it out. In my
dream, I was dead, and I was looking into the
window of my old office. My wife was there
with helpers and they were discarding most
of my stuff. I was horrified at first, but then
realized that the stuff they were throwing
away had little or no monetary value, and no
sentimental value to them. It had some value
to me only because it was something I collected,
or used in a class, or used for research.
And I helplessly watched the junk that I
thought was valuable – but after I was dead,
it wasn’t! I never forgot that dream, telling
me that maybe, just maybe, all the junk that
I have collected really is of little to no value
to anyone!
Of course, stuff is useful in life. We use stuff
all the time, for all our activities. But it is SO
easy to get inundated in stuff and miss what
life is all about. We forget that our feeling of
accomplishment and fulfilment is an interior
something, not a thing that is the
result of accumulation.
What then must we do? That is,
what must we do if we wish to alter
this stuff-accumulation pattern.
(If you don’t think it’s a problem,
you don’t have to do a thing).
How about not buying something
in the first place? You know what
I mean – you’re standing there
salivating about some piece of
clothing or art piece or knife or
whatever, and you know you don’t
really need it, but you want it, and
you’re slowly convincing yourself
that it’s a great bargain! You probably
don’t need it, and your life will
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go on quite well without it. Remember, do
your very best to separate need from want in
your life. If you already have a lot of the item,
and it’s sitting in your garage or cluttering up
your living space, or worse, you’re paying for
a storage unit, then, YOU DO NOT NEED
IT! Don’t buy it. That’s the simple part, if
you can do it. Just don’t buy the stuff in the
first place.
OK, so, perhaps that’s not the option. You’re
going to make a purchase. Find one that
will not cost you more money as time goes
on. You know what I mean, a product that
uses odd-size batteries that are not cheap. Or
those coffee makers that require you to buy
the little cups that fill up landfills. You can
always choose a long-lasting ecological product,
more or less. If you really work at it, you
can make your buying choices support the
products that we should all be using, and not
junk that clutters up your life.
I also ask myself when I obtain something
new: Can I ever sell this for even close to what
I paid for it? Or, can I sell it for more than
I paid? Will it appreciate in value? Or is it
something that no one in their right mind
would pay anything for next month?
I also ask myself if the product will materially
improve my life, and make me a better
person, and more self-reliant. Most stuff will
not do that, let’s be real. But sometimes a
product can be life enhancing, and it’s really
great to have.
Anyway, you get the idea. Your life will be
better without junk. You are rich in the degree
that you can do without something. Get
rid of your clutter.
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