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Mountain Views-News Saturday, June 1, 2019
FAMILY MATTERS By Marc Garlett
OUT TO PASTOR
A Weekly Religion Column by Rev. James Snyder
AVOID ANOTHER COMMON CAUSES FOR
DISPUTE OVER YOUR ESTATE PLAN
In the first part
of this series,
we discussed
one of the most
frequent causes
for dispute over
your estate
plan. Here, we’ll
look at another
leading cause
for dispute and
offer strategies for its prevention.
Contesting the validity of wills and trusts
The validity of your will and/or trust can be contested
in court for a few different reasons. If such a contest is
successful, the court declares your will or trust invalid,
which effectively means the document(s) never existed in
the first place. Obviously, this would likely be disastrous for
everyone involved, especially your intended beneficiaries.
However, just because someone disagrees with what he or
she received in your will or trust doesn’t mean that person
can contest it. Whether or not the individual agrees with
the terms of your plan is irrelevant; it is your plan after
all. Rather, he or she must prove that your plan is invalid
(and should be thrown out) based on one or more of the
following legal grounds:
*The document was improperly executed (signed,
witnessed, and/or notarized) as required by state law.
* You did not have the necessary mental capacity at the
time you created the document to understand what you
were doing.
*Someone unduly influenced or coerced you into creating or
changing the document.
*The document was procured by fraud.
Furthermore, only those individuals with “legal standing”
can contest your will or trust. Just because someone was
intimately involved in your life, even if they’re a blood
relative, doesn’t automatically mean they can legally
contest your plan.
Those with the potential for legal standing generally
fall into two categories: 1) Family members who would
inherit, or inherit more, under state law if you never
created the document. 2) Beneficiaries (family, friends,
and charities) named or given a larger bequest in a
previous version of the document.
Solution: There are times when family members might
contest your will and/or trust over legitimate concerns,
such as if they believe you were tricked or coerced
into changing your plan by an unscrupulous caregiver.
However, that’s not what I’m addressing here.
Here, we’re looking at—and seeking to prevent—contests
which are attempts by disgruntled family members and/
or would-be beneficiaries seeking to improve the benefit
they received through your plan. We’re also seeking to
prevent contests that are a result of disputes between
members of blended families, particularly those that
arise between spouses and children from a previous
marriage.
First off, working with an experienced lawyer is of
paramount importance if you have one or more family
members who are unhappy—or who may be unhappy—
with how they are treated in your plan. This need is
especially critical if you’re seeking to disinherit or favor
one part of your family over another.
Some of the leading reasons for such unhappiness
include having a plan that benefits some children more
than others, as well as when your plan benefits friends,
unmarried domestic partners, and/or other individuals
instead of, or in addition to, your family. Conflict is also
likely when you name a third-party trustee to manage
an adult beneficiary’s inheritance because he or she is
likely to be negatively affected by the sudden windfall of
money.
In these cases, it’s vital to make sure your plan is properly
created and maintained to ensure these individuals will
not have any legal ground to contest your will or trust.
One way you can do this is to include clear language that
you are making the choices laid out in your plan of your
own free will, so no one will be able to challenge your
wishes by claiming your incapacity or duress.
Beyond having a sound plan in place, it’s also crucial that
you clearly communicate your intentions to everyone
affected by your will or trust while you’re still alive,
rather than having them learn about it when you’re no
longer around. Indeed, we often recommend holding a
family meeting (which we can help facilitate) to go over
everything with all impacted parties.
Outside of contests originated by disgruntled loved ones,
the potential for your will or trust to cause dispute is
significantly increased if you have a blended family. If you
are in a second (or more) marriage, with children from a
prior marriage, there’s an inherent risk of dispute because
your children and spouse often have conflicting interests.
To reduce the likelihood of dispute, it’s crucial that your
plan contain clear and unambiguous terms spelling out
the beneficiaries’ exact rights, along with the rights and
responsibilities of executors and/or trustees. Such precise
terms help ensure all parties know exactly what you
intended.
If you have a blended family, it’s also essential that you
meet with all affected parties while you’re still alive (and
of sound mind) to clearly explain your wishes in person.
Sharing your intentions and hopes for the future with your
spouse and children is key to avoiding disagreements over
your true wishes for them.
Prevent disputes before they happen
The best way to deal with estate planning disputes is to do
everything possible to make sure they never occur in the
first place. This means working with a trusted attorney to
put planning strategies in place aimed at anticipating and
avoiding common sources of conflict. Moreover, it means
constantly reviewing and updating your plan to keep pace
with your changing circumstances and family dynamics.
Dedicated to empowering your family, building your
wealth and defining your legacy,
A local attorney and father, Marc
Garlett is on a mission to help
parents protect what they love
most. His office is located at 55
Auburn Avenue, Sierra Madre,
CA 91024. Schedule an
appointment to sit down and talk about ensuring a legacy
of love and financial security for your family by calling
626.355.4000 or visit www.GarlettLaw.com for more
information.
ONE MAN’S JOKE
IS ANOTHER
MAN’S DISCOUNT
The Gracious Mistress of
the Parsonage and I were
dining out at a very nice restaurant. We had
been on the road for two days and were weary
of travel. At least, I was.
Nothing I hate more on a vacation than travel.
But this time it was not so bad because my wife
was doing all the driving. She’s an excellent
driver because she had the world’s best teacher.
I admit that I was her teacher.
We were seated and began looking at the menu.
Then my wife said, “You don’t take very many
things seriously, do you?”
We both laughed, but I knew she was right.
Life is too short to be serious about everything.
I do not want to come to the last of my days
and find I have 100 giggles left over. I want to
giggle all the way to the end.
The waitress came, graciously took our order
and then brought back the bread for us to begin
our lunch.
I picked up the knife to cut some of the bread
and I dropped it on my right forefinger. There
was a little cut there and so I squeezed it to get
as much blood out as I possibly could.
My wife looked at me shaking her head and
said, “What in the world are you doing?”
At the time I had no idea what I was doing, I
was just doing.
Then I saw the waitress heading for our table.
Every once in a while I have a thought rattling
around in my head. And so when she got to the
table I said, “I cut myself and it hurts so much.”
She shook her head and said, “Your finger’s
okay, I saw you using it as I was coming to your
table.”
“But look at the blood,” I complained, “can I
get a discount?”
Still shaking her head, she walked away from
the table.
I think my wife thought I was just going to let it
go, but when you have a good thing going, why
not keep it going. I was going to play this to the
very end. My philosophy is when a bad thing
happens, try to find something good out of it.
I got my handkerchief out of my back pocket,
made a little sling for my finger and attached it
to my shirt. There I was with my finger in that
little sling as though I had hurt it very badly.
As the waitress came to our table again she
stopped, looked at my finger in the sling and
burst out laughing. I said in such a dreary
voice, “Does this qualify for a discount?”
I sat there with my bleeding finger in the little
sling and the customers around me were
laughing as they watched. Their laughter was
worth what I was doing.
Was there any pain in my finger? Not at all. But
I did have a drop of blood. That alone should
count for something.
My wife looked at me, shook her head and
said, “I can’t take you anywhere.”
I would not give up on my pursuit of a discount.
After all, life is full of discounts if only
you can find them. Believe me, I look for them.
“Don’t you know people are watching you?”
My wife said as quietly as possible.
I snickered a smile in her direction and continued
my “woe is me” attitude.
She knew I was not taking this seriously and
she knew that I was going to milk this for everything
I could get.
Eventually the waitress came back with our
ticket and said, “When my manager heard
your story he broke down laughing. Nobody
has ever tried this in this restaurant before.”
I smiled; I like to hear things like that. Then
she said something that really surprised me.
“The manager said that I could give you a 10%
discount for your pain and suffering in our
restaurant.”
She handed me the ticket and there it was in
black-and-white. “10% discount for pain and
suffering.”
Several of the customers around me clapped
and laughed at my success. Nothing is more
important to me than making people laugh.
Too much gloom and doom in our world today.
Somebody needs to step up and turn on
the laughter machine.
I took a picture of that ticket to make sure I
would not forget that sometimes one person’s
joke can equal a good discount.
As we began driving after lunch, both of us
chuckled for quite a while.
I said to my wife, “Who in the world would
have thought that would work?”
You never know what’s going to work until you
try it. If it does not work, okay, move on to the
next joke.
People take things so seriously these days.
Then there are those people who laugh at the
wrong things. I need a balance in my life and I
know that laughter is like medicine to the soul.
It just depends what I am laughing at or who.
One of my favorite Bible passages is found
in the book of Proverbs. Solomon wrote the
Proverbs and is known as the wisest man that
ever lived. He wrote, “A merry heart maketh
a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the
heart the spirit is broken” (Proverbs 15:13).
I have a responsibility to help stir up and give
people a merry heart.
Dr. James L. Snyder, pastor of the Family of
God Fellowship, lives with the Gracious Mistress
of the Parsonage in Ocala, FL. Call him
at 352-687-4240 or e-mail jamessnyder2@att.
net. The church web site is www.whatafellowship.
com.
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