13
OPINIONOPINION
Mountain Views-News Saturday, July 15, 2023
MOUNTAIN
VIEWS
NEWS
PUBLISHER/ EDITOR
Susan Henderson
PASADENA CITY
EDITOR
Dean Lee
PRODUCTION
SALES
Patricia Colonello
626-355-2737
626-818-2698
WEBMASTER
John Aveny
DISTRIBUTION
Peter Lamendola
CONTRIBUTORS
Stuart Tolchin
Harvey Hyde
Audrey Swanson
Meghan Malooley
Mary Lou Caldwell
Kevin McGuire
Chris Leclerc
Dinah Chong Watkins
Howard Hays
Paul Carpenter
Kim Clymer-Kelley
Christopher Nyerges
Peter Dills
Rich Johnson
Lori Ann Harris
Rev. James Snyder
Katie Hopkins
Deanne Davis
Despina Arouzman
Jeff Brown
Marc Garlett
Keely Toten
Dan Golden
Rebecca Wright
Hail Hamilton
Joan Schmidt
LaQuetta Shamblee
STUART TOLCHIN
RICH JOHNSON
NOW THAT’S RICH
DINAH CHONG WATKINS
CLOSE
ENCOUNTERS OF THE
WRONG KIND
PUT THE LIGHTS
ON
BENEVOLENCE
THE VOICE
INSIDE
I am so thankful for benevolence. Recently
I have been a recipient of benevolence
in the form of a compliment
from a reader of my column. Thank
you reader. Even my editor told me: “You’re not half
bad!” I was shocked! Thank you editor.
Back to benevolence” The simple definition: “A desire
to do good to others whether in words or deeds”.
Coincidentally (maybe divinely inspired), I have had
a shift in my attitude toward homeless people approaching
me for money or help. Long ago, I had adopted
a stance of not wanting to give money to homeless
people convincing myself they would just use it
for drugs. That is, indeed, a legitimate concern, but
my heart changed and CLICK…the paradigm shifted.
I’m convinced my personal faith walk had something
to do with it. I wasn’t “trying to be good”, I just
suddenly was filled with compassion. Wow.
My experience? Street people tend to wince every
time they reach out for help. They are obviously anticipating
rejection and bad vibes. The other day a
young guy approached me outside the Subway shop
on 1st and Foothill. He wanted some food. I said
“Sure, what do you want?” He tried to be minimal.
He was prepared to stay outside. Then I felt what I
call a “shoulder tap” from God. “Treat this guy like a
king” was what I felt God saying. So, I invited him to
come in the store with me.
Sheepishly and humbly, he told me his sandwich
preference and that the little half six-inch sub was
okay. I didn’t want to get in trouble with God, lol, so I
ordered the foot long version. “What kind of chips?”
He couldn’t decide. Shoulder tap told me “Get him 3
different kinds”.
“Do you want a cookie?” “Yes, please.” “What kind?”
(I asked). He hesitated so I ordered one each of all
three kinds. I told him it was a tough decision and
that he had to promise to eat 2 of them for me (he
was skinny. Me not so skinny). “And get a couple of
drinks while you’re at it.” A couple of Gatorades were
removed from the cold box.
Loaded him up with lunch, gave him a few bucks,
and told him as we parted that this was a gift from
both the Lord and I. Guess what? The wincing and
fear disappeared from his face, replaced by a smile
and a genuine look of gratitude. My prayer that encounter
becomes a life changing experience for this
fellow human being.
I thought I might dig and find some celebrities who
have the same inclination to help.
Elvis: Elvis had a benevolent niche’. He bought people
Cadillacs. Wait until you hear this. Elvis first Cadillac
he bought for his mother (She couldn’t drive!).
Then he gave one to one of his backup singers. Then
his dentist, jeweler, hairstylist, valet. Then he went
back to the dealer and purchased 13 more Cadillacs
to hand out to people who worked for him. A bank
teller named Mennie Person was looking at Elvis
Cadillac outside a store. Elvis walked, saw her and
ended up buying her a Cadillac that same day.
It wasn't until after he died that we found out that
singer Prince quietly, behind the scenes was very
benevolent.
Keanu Reeves is also a generous soul. He runs a private
charitable foundation funds cancer research
and kids’ hospitals; you will find him answering the
phone at charity tele-thons.
Of course, we all need to exercise discretion. But, if
you are so inclined, carry around a few $5 and $10
dollar bills, bless people’s day (using discretion…but
not too much) and if so inclined, tell them the Lord
and you are wishing the best for them.
And in turn, I’m wishing you a wonderful week.
THE GREATEST
NECESSITY OF THE
AGE!
They made me an offer I couldn’t refuse.
An in-store weekly special discount coupled with
a Manufacturer's coupon. Limited to one package
per customer. I rushed - rushed to the supermarket
to retrieve what was becoming to me - my precious.
My inner voice nudged,
“Hey, is this thing just a thing or is it a THING?”
I took a moment to focus myself using the Navy
Seal breathing technique I learnt on YouTube.
“I acknowledge this upturn of concern,” I told my
inner self,
“You mean…” I said,
“Yes.” I agreed.
“We’re going with DENIAL”.
There was a bounce in my step when I arrived
home. In the back of my dark, very dark closet I
climbed the step ladder to lay my prize neatly on
top of the ceiling high stack of Charmin Ultra
Soft Toilet Paper Super Mega 8 Rolls = 48 Rolls
packages.
That I have a pallet of toilet paper could be argued
as a consequence of the pandemic or watching too
many episodes of Doomsday Preppers, but TP is
an under-appreciated necessity of our age or is it?
Bangkok, Thailand, mid-90’s. We were halfway
into our 3 hour journey to the Amphawa Floating
Market when our minibus pulled over to a Thai
version of a Flying J's truck stop with gas, restrooms
and a restaurant. Instead of French fries on
the menu there was pho. I headed into the bathroom
and once in the stall, I noticed there was a
hand held shower attached to the toilet. Weird.
Sort of a cramped space to take a shower in. And
then, oh - there’s no toilet paper. Not that the roll
was empty, there wasn’t even a dispenser. Charmin
would not do well in Thailand I thought
The Friendship Hotel, Beijing, China, mid-70’s. Exclusive
to overseas visitors only, the 4 red star hotel
promoted itself as the finest in the country. Luxurious
no doubt for they provided a pad of stiff memo
paper, but oddly enough, no pen in the bamboo
paneled bathroom stall. This non-adhesive precursor
to Post-It Notes was the pinnacle of toilet paper
at the time. Charmin would do well in China
I thought.
Paper was invented in China in AD 105, leading
to the development of toilet paper 400 years later
for the aristocracy of the Imperial Courts. Commercial
production in the US began in 1857 when
Joseph Gayetty of New York marketed a "Medicated
Paper, for the Water-Closet,” sold in packages
of 500 sheets for 50 cents. There was some trepidation
about its use as not until 1930 were toilet paper
brands certified as being “splinter-free”. Today our
options range from workmanlike 1000 sheet rolls
to plush toy-soft bundles averaging a nickel a sheet,
less in today’s dollars than when TP first came out.
My home, Toronto, Canada, mid-60’s. My mother
taught my young self three squares of toilet paper
was sufficient to do the job. Meticulously, I unwound
three squares from the regular sized roll
and tore it off along the perforated lines. My fingers
gently rubbed the rough yet fragile 2 ply bond.
Charmin Ultra Soft Toilet Paper Super Mega 8
Rolls = 48 Rolls would do well when I grow up I
thought.
Dinah Chong Watkins column appears every 1st and 3rd
Saturday of the month.
For more Close Encounters Of The Wrong Kind go to
www.ceotwk.com
Lately, I have been
making an attempt to get
beyond my self-imposed limitations. As I
have written many times before I was raised
with the warning “Don’t rip your pants” always
ringing in my ears. This was a shorthand
version of my understanding that my
ultimate mission was not to do anything that
would bring anxiety to my mother and she
was anxious about everything. The worst
thing I could do was to come home late and
cause my mother’s face to swell such that her
eye would swell shut and her tongue would
hang out of her mouth. Still I would come
home late and felt that I was kind of a bad kid
causing my mother so much pain.
I still have this inner voice that tells me
not to do anything “risky” which connects to
that belief that I would be making life more
difficult for my mother and the world. Consequently,
it is not surprising that I have lived
an outwardly conservative life clinging to old
safe habits. I have lived on the same property
here in Sierra Madre for 45 years. Frankly, I
like it here. In Sierra Madre Canyon I still
regularly see people walking around while
outside of this area people no longer feel safe
walking. I hold on to old relationships.
I seldom take the risk to go anywhere
alone I guess for fear of being alone with my
thoughts and that inner voice. That voice in
my head that continually tells me I am doing
something wrong. When I am with other
people that inner voice tells me that the
other people are doing something wrong and
I am generally very critical of others and in
that context very accepting of myself. I pay
no attention to my own appearance but am
very cognizant of how other people appear.
I guess I feel safer with strangers than with
friends.
Enough of this prattling. I have now
reached the point where I want to take the
risk to do stuff that scares my inner voice. I
want to get to know myself better. I have
been safely writing these articles looking into
myself and believing that they have some relevance
to the lives of my readers. I keep talking
about trying to compile the articles into a
published book for the world to see but I take
no steps to accomplish this. In fact I do very
little that I have not been doing for years. I
have created an existence where I regularly
meet with my son, daughter, and granddaughter
three times a week. That is about
as safe as it gets. I also talk to my ex-wife
on the phone and also regularly speak with
an old neighbor who moved away twenty five
years ago. She is about as safe as it gets.
All right, I have drawn a picture, and
I want to change that picture no matter what
my inner voice warns. Recently I started
talking to some stranger in a restaurant who
encouraged me to read the book the Untethered
Soul, the journey beyond yourself by
Michael A. Singer. Listen to this. I managed
to obtain a Large Print edition so I would
not have my usual excuse that the writing
was too small. How’s that for initiative? The
book is really scary. It directs the reader to
stop clinging to old patterns and to not be
ruled by that nagging negative voice inside.
Of course, I will still hear that voice but instead
of being ruled by it I will attempt to just
be a “witness” to it and make other choices.
I have already taken some steps to volunteer
my limited services to a program which has
now lead to complications which I generally
avoid. I already see myself more completely
and understand how important safe connections
are to me. On the top of the front cover
Deepak Chopra is quoted to say “Read this
book carefully and you will get more than a
glimpse of eternity”. In future articles I’ll let
you know what I have glimpsed.
Mountain Views News
has been adjudicated as
a newspaper of General
Circulation for the County
of Los Angeles in Court
Case number GS004724:
for the City of Sierra
Madre; in Court Case
GS005940 and for the
City of Monrovia in Court
Case No. GS006989 and
is published every Saturday
at 80 W. Sierra Madre
Blvd., No. 327, Sierra
Madre, California, 91024.
All contents are copyrighted
and may not be
reproduced without the
express written consent of
the publisher. All rights
reserved. All submissions
to this newspaper become
the property of the Mountain
Views News and may
be published in part or
whole.
Opinions and views expressed
by the writers
printed in this paper do
not necessarily express
the views and opinions
of the publisher or staff
of the Mountain Views
News.
Mountain Views News is
wholly owned by Grace
Lorraine Publications,
and reserves the right to
refuse publication of advertisements
and other
materials submitted for
publication.
Letters to the editor and
correspondence should
be sent to:
Mountain Views News
80 W. Sierra Madre Bl.
#327
Sierra Madre, Ca.
91024
Phone: 626-355-2737
Fax: 626-609-3285
email:
mtnviewsnews@aol.com
A member of
the
California
Newspaper
Publishers
Association
Mountain Views News
Mission Statement
The traditions of
community news-
papers and the
concerns of our readers
are this newspaper’s
top priorities. We
support a prosperous
community of well-
informed citizens. We
hold in high regard the
values of the exceptional
quality of life in our
community, including
the magnificence of
our natural resources.
Integrity will be our guide.
Mountain Views News 80 W Sierra Madre Blvd. No. 327 Sierra Madre, Ca. 91024 Office: 626.355.2737 Fax: 626.609.3285 Email: editor@mtnviewsnews.com Website: www.mtnviewsnews.com
|